I can’t believe its been a month since I became my best friends wife…. this has been THE sweetest month I have ever lived and it brings tears to my eyes to think I get to live with my best friend.
I have been wanting to kind of write out what went on in my heart that week. And from a photographer who has shot a lot of weddings what it was like to finally be living my own.
One thing that I would like to start out with is our location. Was perfect all on its own. It was a place where we both felt like God was closest and there is hardly any cell phone service. So for us we loved how this made everything feel in the moment. Life stopped for us on this weekend…
Its hard because there are so many things I want to say and I’m not really sure where to begin. First of all as a photographer you see all sorts of situations and how people act during stressful times of a wedding. You see how some plan out a ton of time… everything goes perfect…. and all their helpers and friends do exactly what they were told to do… and the day goes without stress or panic and is just this beautiful joyful time of celebrating two people committing their lives together.
And of course you see the other side of weddings where everyone is running late. The parents are no where to be found when it comes time for family photos. The bride is waiting for all her friends and family to be there or ready for her to get in her dress. And the list goes on… its no ones fault when these things happen but when your planning your big day of course you want the calm and enjoy every minute.
For me I almost had a lot of panic attacks the weeks leading up to the wedding because I didn’t want to miss any minute of it. And now looking back I remember every little detail that happened that week and day. I kind of wish I would of had it more planned out the week of the wedding so it wasn’t like I have no idea what I should be doing its finally here and now what do I do?! I almost was too not busy enough.
So my big day happened… it wasn’t exactly what I planned… we were running late… we were taking family photos leading up to the ceremony… I felt like I was running around with my head cut off… my mom was no where to be found when I was getting ready… I felt like the whole time we were going to forget a photo or pose that I wanted… or my biggest fear was not getting family photos done before the ceremony because I knew we wouldn’t have time to do them after.
BUT here is the amazing party. GOD KNEW ALL OF THIS BEFORE THIS DAY!!!! Isn’t that amazing? He knew all these little details and yet he knew all the amazing things he was going to bless us with as well.
Now for the amazingly awesome parts that happened. I got to marry my best friend that day. I got to be blessed with perfect 81 degree weather just like we all had been praying for. There were no bugs (I mean no one got any bug bites at all). No wind. and BEAUTIFUL sunshine with that golden light that we photographers loved. Do you remember how much rain we got leading up to August? How muddy and how water was standing everywhere? Well we had gorgeous green grass and tress and get this… no mud at all. So our chairs didn’t sink in the ground. We didn’t have to be careful going around for photos.
We had gorgeous ponds, trees, fields, and my favorite party my Grandad’s model T car to take photos with. We had lots of friends and family make the trip to be at our wedding and share in our day with us. My favorite part of the whole day… honestly speaking. Was how not only was every bit of the day so us with it being outdoors and gorgeous weather. (Well and I mean seeing my handsome man FINALLY become my groom and husband) But everywhere I looked I saw God’s goodness. HE alone could of made the weather and no bugs the way it was. Not some expensive tent or locations. But HIM. He chose to bless us and like my mom says, “Put his Kiss on our day.”
Ok so here are the things that as a photographer I didn’t expect.
I didn’t expect to look at the photos the way I do after the wedding day. I mean ok it does remind me of how good and amazing that day was. Like all those excited feelings I felt and it makes me take myself back to all the moments I remember. BUT it reminds me even more. How amazing it is to be married now. Like I look at the photos and think of all the fun times we had on our honeymoon. How I amazing it is knowing we go to OUR home together to sleep at night. How we plan our meals together and all the funny moments we have had doing these things since that day. And most of all…. those photos remind me of all the hard lonely times I had before that day. How many times I dreamed of seeing him dressed up like this waiting for ME at the end of that aisle. And hearing his amazing deep voice say those vows that he wrote only for ME.
I don’t think about how I would of done this pose that way or taken the photos this way. I think about how perfect our day was. Because HE our sweet Jesus made our day what it was. Not because of money or because we had the perfect decorations. (Even though as a girl… everything was what I dreamed it would be. I can’t thank my Uncle Alan enough and all the guys for hanging our chandelier and lights exactly what I have always dreamed they would be.) Hey lets face it. We are all human and we want everyone to desire what we had. But in my heart that isn’t what made our day perfect to me and I don’t think of that. I think of all these other amazing things that make me feel like the luckiest girl alive.
And I can say that last sentence only because of my Savior Jesus Christ. Because I didn’t feel disappointed for a little while after my wedding. I wanted that relaxed everyone enjoy picture perfect easy going day. But I did get that in our own God glorifying day. But because of how good He is I can look at all the little things that made it OUR PERFECT WEDDING DAY.
So my advice to brides getting married. And I know everyone has said this most likely to you as some point. But here it is. Breathe deeply a lot and just stop. Take in the moments and think about what is really important. And most of all… its not about being with your girlfriends or your family on your wedding day. Yes, this is very important so don’t get me wrong. But this is about you and your almost husband. What is important is having memories THAT day together where you can look back on those memories and think about them together. You will have those memories together and not just you or just him. That is what is important.
OH and most importantly…. HIRE A AMAZING VIDEOGRAPHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!! For me it goes without saying to hire and invest in a photographer. But Adrian really wanted a good videographer that would not only capture our day in a good quality where you can hear everything and see everything. And it was the best decision we made about the whole thing. Because now that the whole thing is over. Our day is done. The decorations are being reused by other brides. And our clothes are put away. That amazing incredible video and photos are what we have to look at for the rest of our lives. And it was worth every little penny.
These are some of my favorite images ever…. Adrian ended up running to me during our first look and I love what his face looks like in the b&w image.
Here is the link to our incredible video if anyone is interested. CLICK HERE
Our photographers were Megan Hein photography and Jennifer Miller photography. And our videographers were H&M videography… I HIGHLY recommend all of them.